Have you ever heard someone saying “I hate my life”? Have you ever felt that you hate your own life too? Or have you ever felt that you hate yourself? All of us have been sometimes frustrated, angry and depressed. In many situations all of us may want to scream and we feel that we hate our own lives.
So, if you have also experienced such a bad feeling, you should know that you are not alone. Most people have the same problem as you. Actually, many people have negative thoughts and a lack of self-confidence, so they start to hate themselves and their own lives.
You should know that life is full of challenges, so there are a lot of things you will have to fight with. But, if you have positive thoughts and if you believe in yourself, you will survive anything and you will solve any problem in your life. A positive attitude towards life will make you feel much happier.
If you think positively, you will be able to face any problems and obstacles on your life path and you will be able to survive a difficult period that you may be passing through. Yes, you should know that it is only a bad period and everything will be better soon.
Why Do People Hate Their Own Lives?
Studies have shown that many people in this world are not satisfied with their jobs, so this is one of the most common reasons of their depression and unhappiness. You may have heard people saying: “I hate my life status” or “I hate my life so much” and the reason is very often a job. If you are doing something you don’t like, if your job makes you nervous and unhappy, you should think well about it. Do you still want to continue working in the same place? Is it possible to find a job where you will feel much better and more comfortable? It may be the time to make some important decisions and changes in your life.
Also, a large number of people have problems with their love life or a situation in their family may be very bad. Many people are usually told what to do and how to behave, so they don’t follow their own life path. All these may be the reasons why some people hate their own lives. Have you ever thought: “I hate my life and I wanna die?” This is the worst thought that you may experience, but it is also temporary. It is something you probably say in a moment, but later you give up of such stupid thing. You are much stronger than that.
So, what to do in a situation when you hate yourself and your own life? Is it truth that we have to become more resilient and to learn how to deal with depression? Of course, the first thing we should do is to find the reason of our depression and our unhappiness. We have to ask ourselves several questions, in order to understand better our situation and what should we do. It is not easy to get out of depression but you have to try. If you are also repeating things such as “I hate myself”, “I am stupid”, “I am a bad person”, “Nobody loves me”, “I am worthless”, then you have a big problem with yourself and you need help. None of these things is true and you have to get rid of all these negative thoughts.
If you are also feeling depressed and unhappy, this article may be useful for you. We will tell you what you should do when you hate your life and how to not hate your life anymore. It may be quite a difficult process to stop hating your life, but if you believe in yourself, you will succeed. Just continue reading this article and you will find out soon how to make positive changes in your life and how to love yourself again.
What Should You Ask Yourself?
Before taking any actions, you should talk to yourself and ask yourself a couple of questions. Below you will see which are these questions and how you should analyze them.
Whose Life Am I Really Living? – One of the first questions that you have to ask yourself is whose life are you really living. It is proved that one of the most common reasons of our unhappiness could be the wrong life path that we are following. It may be the case that some people have a big impact on our own lives, so they make decisions instead of us and they want to have our lives in their hands. If this is case with you, then you should get rid of the influence of other people as soon as possible.
In many cases, our parents are those who are trying to create our lives. But, we should not blame them because parents always have good intentions. It is also possible that we have incorporated some bad traits from our parents, so we are behaving like them in certain situations.
In this case we don’t reflect our own identity and our point of view. So, it would be best to ask yourself what are you doing wrong and which bad traits you have incorporated from your parents. If you notice some of them, you should try to change them and to create your own identity.
There we have a term “differentiation”, which means that you should stop living some other’s life and start living your own life. You should follow your own feelings and opinions. You can hear someone’s advice, but you should decide yourself what is the best for you.
Another case related to the question ,,Whose life am I really living?” may be the case that you are still living in your own past. Maybe you are not able to forget some things from your painful past and you always come back to it. Because of that, you are not able to go forward.
In this case, you should try to get rid of your past and to concentrate yourself to future. You should know that your past, although it may have been painful, may be a good experience for you. Now you should be much stronger and more decisive, so it will be much easier for you to achieve your own goals.
Do I Have a Negative Attitude Towards Life? – Have you ever heard of a “critical inner voice”? All of us have a so called “critical inner voice” that criticizes us for anything we do or we don’t do. This critical inner voice is very important and our attitude towards life depends on it. If you listen to this voice too much, you will be sabotaged and you will fail in every area of your life. You will not achieve your goals, you will be unhappy in your relationship as well as in your job. You will not have control over your own life, because a critical inner voice will make you feel bad and worthless.
Studies have shown that this critical inner voice has been built during a long period of time and it is usually based on our destructive experiences from the past. So, if you listen carefully to your critical inner voice, you will think that everything you do is bad and you will lose your self-confidence. Your thoughts will be negative and you will never believe in your own success. But, STOP!
Now it is time to change your life and your own opinions and beliefs. You need to overcome your critical inner voice and there are many effective methods to do it. The experts in this area of psychology say that we should achieve an attitude that is more self-compassionate. You should know that you are able and strong enough to change any part in your own life. Of course, to achieve that, it is necessary to change the negative filter inside of you and to overcome the critical inner voice.
As we have already said, a critical inner voice is usually based on some bad experiences from the past, but you should believe that you are able enough to counteract this voice and to grow much stronger in this process. We should not let our critical inner voice to create our lives! You should know that a critical inner voice is only a reflection of your deep and unconscious thoughts that want to sabotage you. But, you are much stronger than that.
You should have more self-confidence and you should believe in your own abilities and powers. You should try to do something even though your critical inner voice tells you that you will fail. No. You will do it. You will achieve your goals. You will have a success. Just believe in yourself and ignore a destructive inner voice. And remember, you will not lose anything if you try.
When you see that you have achieved your own goals, you will start to ignore your critical inner voice more and more. Every day you will be more self-confident and you will believe in yourself. When you get rid of that critical inner voice, you will be much happier and you will finally start to live your own life.
Am I Flexible Enough? – Another important question that you should ask yourself is if you are flexible enough. If you stick to hard times and if you are ready to fight for yourself, you will be going through life much easier. You should know that not all is the question of circumstances or destiny, but that you also have a lot of control over many situations in your life. There are things that you can do to make your life better. You should know that there will always be obstacles on your way, but they could be challenges for you that will help you grow much stronger.
When you have asked yourself these questions, there are also many actions that you have to take in order to stop hating your life. More about these actions you will see below.
What Actions Should You Take When You Hate Your Own Life?
You Should Make a List of the Things You Hate in Your Life. The first step is to write down all the things that you hate in your life. You have to give the answer to a question “Why do I hate my life?” If you are only saying that you hate your life, but you don’t have good reasons for that, then you should think well about it. Just try to remember three or more reasons why you hate your life.
When you have made a list of the things you hate in your life, try to list all the things that you are able to change. For example, if you hate your job, you should start looking for a new job. If you hate your body and if you are feeling fat, try to exercise more and to eat less and you will be looking better very soon. These are some of the things that you can change in your life.
You Should Make a List of Your Best Qualities. Nobody in this world is perfect. All people have faults, but the key of happy life is to accept them. Actually, it is necessary to accept yourself with all your faults and good traits. Now it is time to write down all your qualities. No, don’t tell that you don’t have qualities! All people do. Just take a paper and make a list of your best qualities.
Are you a good daughter/son? Are you a loyal friend? Are you decisive, persistent and ambitious? Are you good at sport? Are you good at mathematics? You should be aware of your own qualities and you should have more self-confidence. As we have already mentioned, every person has qualities, you just need to focus on them. You should be proud of yourself and of everything you have achieved in your life. You should be proud of whom you are and you should love yourself more. If you don’t love yourself, nobody will love you, remember it.
You Should Forget All Bad Things From Your Past. As we have already mentioned above, it is necessary to forget all bad things from your past. If your boyfriend/girlfriend or your parents hurt you somehow, try to forgive them or, at least, try to accept that some things cannot change at the moment. You can’t change the past, but you can determine your present and focus on your future, which is most important for your happiness. If you have your own goals and if you believe in yourself, you will be much happier and you will have success in any area of your life.
You Should Practice Mindfulness. Have you ever heard of mindfulness? Well, we could say that it is a mental state that will focus yourself on the present moment and you will accept your own feelings and thoughts. Then you should get rid of all destructive thoughts, which will help you reduce stress and fight depression.
Also, it will improve your overall health. This practice is called mindfulness mediation and thanks to it you will be able to acknowledge that all bad feelings are only momentary and that they will pass very soon. If you experience suicidal thoughts, you should also know that they are only temporary, but more about that you will see below.
You Should Realize Your Personal Powers. Even though you may be passing through a difficult period in your life, you should know that you have a control over your own life. You have a power and you should be strong enough to face all problems that are bothering you. Remember that you are a human and all humans are very adaptive and powerful. We are able to handle any loss or changes in our lives. Humans are able to fight and to survive even the most difficult situations. As we have already said, you should always have in your mind that everything will be better soon. You just have to wait a bad period to pass.
You Should Take Control Over Your Own Life. Why do you hate your life? Do you feel that you don’t have control over your own life? Did you hate also your childhood because you didn’t have permission to do what you wanted to do? So, now when you are an adult person, you should take more control over your own life. You should know that most things in your life depend on your own and you are able enough to control them. Just believe in yourself and take control over your own life. You will see that you will feel much better if you behave like you want to behave, if you do what you want to do, if you go where your heart tells you to go.
You Should Be Grateful For Everything You Have. There are many things in your life which you should be grateful for. Try to remember them and to write them down. You may be surprised when you see how many good things you have in your life, so you may want to change your attitude. You should be grateful for every beautiful day that you are spending with your friends, as well as for a tasty breakfast that you had yesterday.
You should also be grateful for your health and for the health of your family. You should be grateful for a kiss that you have got from a loved person. Isn’t it enough to be happy? There are many little things that we should be grateful for and you should pay more attention to them. You just need to eliminate all negative thoughts from your mind and all worries that you have, so try to use gratitude as the most powerful weapon against depression and self-hatred.
You Should Spend More Time With Positive People. Studies have shown that positive people are happier and more successful in their lives than those people who have negative thoughts. If you have positive people around you, it can give you motivation to make positive changes in your life. If people around you are negative, you will also feel bad and powerless.
Spending time with positive people also means that you should be more with people you love and people who give you a support. If you feel comfortable and loved with your family members and friends, try to spend more time with them and you will feel much better. It is not good to be alone if you feel bad. A good company will light you up, so try it.
Sometimes it is good to be alone and to think well about everything, but too much loneliness can lead to depression and negative thoughts. So, we recommend you to spend more time with positive people and it will certainly help you feel better and get out of depression. You will see that there’s no reason to hate your life, to hate yourself or to hate any other people. Your life can be beautiful if you decide it.
You Should Seek Medical Help. There is no shame in seeking medical help. It means that you are brave enough to seek help and to share your experiences with other people. If you are in depression and if you have experienced the thoughts of suicide, then we recommend you to seek help. When you share your experiences with other people, you will feel much better and you will see that it is possible to make your life meaningful and valuable. You will be better as soon as you see that other people also have similar problems as you.
Remember that you are not alone. There is always something you can do to make things better and to improve the quality of your life. You just need to think more positively and to listen to the experiences of other people. Some of them may be useful for you. So, if you are feeling lonely and if you don’t see the sense of your own life, don’t wait anymore and seek help. Working in a team with an expert’s help will make you feel much better. This way you can also meet some new friends and your friendship may last forever.
You Should Always Keep in Mind That God Loves You. Most people who hate their lives don’t have a spiritual connection with God. If you also hate your own life, then you should think about the relationship you have with God. If you believe in God, you have to believe also that God loves all people and you are not the exception. You should keep in mind that God loves you with all your faults and bad traits.
So, you should also love and accept yourself the way you are. If there is anything that you can change in your life, you can do it, but let God change the rest. You have to know that all human creatures in this world are different and unique. If you realize that God loves you, it will be much easier for you to accept yourself. Loving yourself is the most important if you want also other people to love you. Also, if you want to love your life, you should start from loving yourself.
You Should Change Your Lifestyle. Of course, there many other ways to feel better and to get rid of depression. We recommend you to change your lifestyle and to live more healthily. In the first place, it is very important to eat healthily. Studies have shown that the food we eat has a big impact on our mood and on our overall health. Your diet should be based more on fresh fruits and vegetables, as well as on grains and other health products. Does it mean that you should forget fast food and your favorite sweets forever? No. You can eat pizza and chocolate but only as an occasional treat. You should take more care about the food you eat and you will feel and look much better.
It is also necessary to get some fresh air every day. If you are feeling bad, go for a walk and you will immediately feel much better. You should also get some exercise at least two or three times a week. Exercising will make you fit and healthy. Also, if you exercise regularly, you will clear your mind and you will relax your body. Dancing is also recommended if you deal with depression and negative thoughts.
Of course, it is also important to sleep enough. Actually, you should get a plenty of sleep if you want to fight depression and to think positively. If you don’t sleep enough, you will be nervous and you will hate everything around you, but also yourself. You should try to go to bed much earlier at night, so you will be well-rested the following day. Not only will the lack of sleep make you nervous and weak, but it will also have a negative impact on your overall health.
Eat healthily, exercise regularly, sleep enough and never forget smiling. This way you will stop to hate your life and you will see the things more positively.
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Summary
As you have seen in this article, there are many ways to fight depression and to start loving yourself and your own life. You have to think well first and to find the underlying cause of your depression. Ask yourself why do you hate your own life and what are the things you can change.
As we have already said above, it is necessary to get rid of all negative thoughts and to start being more optimistic. Studies have shown that sometimes our thoughts may be our greatest enemies. If your thoughts are negative, you will hate yourself and your own life. You have to keep in mind that it will not be easy to turn negative into positive thoughts, but you should try. Very soon you will feel much better.
Also, you should simply decide not to repeat the words “I hate myself” or “I hate my life”. Try to get rid of these thoughts and to think on a more positive way. If your thoughts were more positive, you will see that life can be beautiful. There are so many things that you should be grateful for. You just need to see them. You can also try some new things in your life and make new goals. You should believe in yourself and you will achieve these goals. This way you will start to love yourself more and more.
We have shown you in this article what to do if you hate your life and how to make positive changes in your own personality, as well as in your lifestyle. But, if you still hate your life and if you don’t treat this problem on time, then you may feel even worse and worse. Many people who are not happy start drinking alcohol and using drugs, so they may become addicted.
We have told you what you should do to stop hating your life and to make it better. We hope this article has been useful for you and that you will get rid of all negative thoughts. Just believe in yourself and think more positively and you will be able to survive the most difficult times in your life. Remember that your thoughts are creating your own life.
You should also know that you are able to change many things in your life. So, it is time to make changes and to take life in your own hands. If you try to have positive thoughts, you will see that there is no reason to hate yourself or to hate your own life. As we have already said, life can be beautiful if you decided it to be. Never forget that your happiness depends mostly on your own.
